When you hear the work elegance, what comes first to mind? Perhaps a ballroom alight with crystal, a well dressed woman, or a grand estate? For me, it is Audrey Hepburn.
As a girl watching her films, I always longed to be her. First of all, she was stunningly beautiful. Not to mention she always had such a smashing wardrobe! But most appealing to me was the calm confidence she exuded. She was gentle and feminine, but her every movement seemed filled with purpose. Her soft voice and fluid movements were captivating. Looking back, I see it was her timeless elegance that delighted audiences everywhere.
Elegance is an art that the 21st century long ago abandoned. Very few women today are truly elegant, or even know how to become so. They view an obstinate attitude as strength, and dignity as a facade. Let us show this crazy, mixed-up world just how empowering and beautiful elegance is in a woman!
With help from Audrey Hepburn’s quotes I’ve composed a list of helpful hints….
1. Be genuinely joyful
A person doesn’t have to smile to reveal their inner joy, it simply radiates from them. And it is a most attractive quality, particularly within a woman. And after all, isn’t life too short to be miserable all the time?
“I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls..”
2. Understand true beauty
You cannot be beautiful according to the worlds standards. It’s impossible. That’s why they have airbrush. So although it is necessary to be well groomed, don’t fool yourself into chasing a beauty that is both in-achievable and fleeting. Instead, invest in the only lasting beauty.
“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she knows.”
“Make-up can only make you look pretty on the outside but it doesn’t help if you are ugly on the inside. Unless you eat the make-up.”
3. Embrace who you are
Alright, so this isn’t just a “don’t worry about pursuing goodness and instead just submit to your shortcomings” excuse. It means that instead of living in constant dissatisfaction with your appearance, surroundings, or talents you ought to embrace your unique style.
“Why change? Everyone has his own style. When you have found it, you should stick to it.”
4. Challenge yourself
“I tried always to do better: saw always a little further. I tried to stretch myself.”
“Good things aren’t supposed to just fall into your lap. God is very generous, but He expects you to do your part first.”
So there ya go! I hope you enjoyed, and have a wonderful day! 🙂
Dear liberated women,
I am an eighteen year old who willingly wears skirts and firmly believes in the biblical model for womanhood and marriage. I don’t do it because I am forced to, or because of indoctrination, or lack proper socialization and knowledge of the world. I do it because I am a woman, and I am both proud and happy to be just that.
For you the code of womanhood demands that I stand up by myself and for myself. You claim that I must live solely for my own benefit, and thus ought to make my own way in life. You want me to rise up against “injustice”. Alright then. I’ll rebel. I am rebelling against the cultural expectation that women must follow the cookie-cutter form, spoon fed to us by “liberated” women. Not the type of revolt you had in mind, is it?
I believe that the feminists are hypocritical to say that my body is my own, only so long as I use it to oppose tradition and men in general. If as you claim my body is my own, then why am I not free to dress as a woman? I am happy to be a woman and thus I naturally embrace my femininity. How can I be pro-woman if I dress and act like a man? What does that accomplish for you, but to destroy womanhood? It is blatantly clear that all feminism has accomplished is a loss of femininity. These angry women have turned into the very thing they once complained about. They have turned into the condescending, entitled male. Only now it’s the female who gets all the privileges. So much for equality. But is that really what the feminists were looking for, equality? Or was it superiority? And in that case, aren’t they just as bad if not worse than the superior white male? Just pull out the “I’m just a poor woman, trying to make it on my own and the whole universe is against me” card. That’s totally fair and equal?
I am pro-women, but I am not anti-man. I believe that women should be treated with the utmost respect. Consequently, when a man holds the door for me, I take it as the compliment it was meant to be. Feminists have foolishly cast chivalry to the side. Dare I say, I fully intend to one day marry and become a man’s help-meet. Radical, I know. But why should I give up my happiness for someone else’s agenda?
And no, in case you’ve been wondering I was not brainwashed by an overbearing father. Quite the contrary, I have been blessed with a solid, classical education. I have been taught to think for myself. And that is the reason why I call into question the motives of the feminist movement. Women of today are blindly following the feminist movement simply because “this is how it’s supposed to go”. Maybe you ought to research a little before taking these 20th century women’s words as gospel. Particularly Margaret Sanger, founder of Planned Parenthood. How can you follow a woman whose goal was to eradicate whole races? Just how is that equal? She was quoted as saying, “We do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population”. A pretty revealing statement.
Feminism has created a world full of discontented women pushing and shoving their men away for a place at the top. But who is happy with this lifestyle? I mean truly joyful and content. I for one refuse to give up a domestic life for something I don’t believe in or want. I have not bound myself to live according to the philosophies of suffragettes. I live according to the dictates of my own conscience. So I would say I am without a doubt, the liberated one. I don’t work to further a boss whose mission I don’t believe in. I haven’t sacrificed my family for the ability to say that I have “freedom”. I live in harmony with the men in my life. I understand the full beauty of motherhood, and am content to have my family be my mission. Most especially, I understand the beauty of womanhood, and would not trade that for all the titles in the world.
A very content stay-at-home daughter
This is a fairly short post, I know. But it covers a subject of great importance; books. Below is a list of books that I found extremely helpful and useful. So without further ado, here are a few titles that I believe every young lady should have on her bookshelf…
Praying for Your Future Husband by Robin Jones Gunn and Tricia Goyer covers the largely unchartered subject of praying for your man even before you meet him. It was a subject fairly new to me. The authors draw from their past experiences as they explain just how to go about this necessary task. After all, the man you are destined to marry is somewhere on this earth right now. The fact that you might not have met him yet is irrelevant. This book offers helpful suggestions as to what exactly to pray for concerning your future spouse.
Dressing with Dignity by Colleen Hammond does a wonderful job at explaining the importance of modesty. It is a quick read at 103 pages, but it covers the vast subject beautifully. From the history of fashion to outfit guidelines, it covers the subject of attire according to the Church.
How to be a Lady by Harvey Newcomb is the 1850 young lady’s guide to etiquette. Because it was written during the 19th century, it holds the young women to a higher standard. And it was penned in the eloquent style that was once so common. It causes one to ponder if we are the century that got it wrong. The mere concept of being a lady has been lost upon our uncouth society. It invokes much thought when reading these things through the eyes of the 19th century man. A time when graciousness was viewed as a necessity. I would greatly recommend this book for all young ladies.
Preparing to be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl instructs the younger woman in preparing for the calling of your lifetime. If your vocation is marriage, this is an irreplaceable book for your library. With better than forty years of marriage under the author’s belt she draws upon her experiences as well as the stories of others to give a well-rounded fount knowledge to the reader. It brings to attention many realistic matters that we often overlook. All of the Pearl family’s reading material is wonderful, but this is especially written for young woman before marriage.
That about wraps up the list of books. Each and every one offers priceless information to the reader. So what are you waiting for? Get to reading…and don’t forget that cup of tea!
Summer is a time of flip-flops, sunscreen, and swimming. Which presents a problem…modesty. Sigh. That topic that despite ourselves refuses to fade away. It is rather interesting to discuss the subject of modesty during the warmer months. A person’s opinion of suitable attire will often change dramatically if it threatens their level of comfort. No one likes to feel hot and sticky. What a perfect excuse for shorts and swimsuits! Not really.
Look back a couple hundred years. American women survived many a sultry summer with dignity. Though lacking AC they wore their petticoats and long sleeves because they were ladies. And still we complain if wearing a skirt that covers the knee. A little perspective would do us all well. And what prompted them to maintain this high level of modesty throughout the days of wearisome labor? It must have been a matter of great importance to each of them.
Although dressing with dignity during the summer is uncommon, it is well received by many. Men especially respond differently to my sisters and I because of our dressing in a feminine manner. I recall on one occasion last summer, when a group of young women dressed in the typical modern American fashion were walking in front of my mother, sisters, and I. A man walked briskly past them, his expression sullen. Upon seeing my family and I in our long skirts, his whole face lit up. “Good morning, ladies.” he said with a beaming smile and slight nod of head. His immediate response to femininity was to be a gentleman.
So how are we to go about dressing modestly during the summer? A lovely way to stay cool is to wear a skirt. It is a chic and feminine choice. As far as swimming is concerned athletic wear is a wonderful alternative. It can still look stylish while protecting your skin from the sun naturally. A good rule of thumb is never show more skin swimming than you would any other time.
Our manner of dress is a reflection of the state of our soul. What do your clothes say about you? Does your attire proclaim that you are a lady and a daughter of God? Or does it proclaim that your love lies in the world? Summer cannot be an excuse for immodesty and impurity of the heart. The Lord must reign in our lives during every season.
I am biting the bullet and undertaking a highly controversial subject. Femininity. This is a matter of birth that society too often sweeps under the carpet. It is God’s sacred design and the world’s loathed enemy. How can we ignore it? Feminists swear that it will destroy a woman’s freedom and her value in the world. But could it be the most noble and freeing call for a woman?
Allow me to give to you the most influential woman the world has ever known. Her choice altered history forever. Her name was Mary. At a young age her “yes” to an angel allowed the Redeemer to enter the world. Mary was chosen from all mankind for this special role in furthering the kingdom of God. She literally became the living tabernacle of the Most High. This was a role no man could fill. It was given to a humble, obedient young lady. This demonstrates how important a woman’s role is in the divine plan.
God created women to be totally different than men. He did not create us this way in order to be inferior but in order to compliment men. Almost the way hot chocolate complements a snowy winter day. The snow in and of itself is lovely but cold and tiring (that is after hours of shoveling or sledding). Hot chocolate is delicious but without the cold in contrast it loses some of its charm. Together the snowy day becomes an exciting experience. Although men and women are vastly different from snow and chocolate they both compliment and complete the other.
Why do we fight our differences from men? Are we not losing the essence of what a woman is by trading in our roles as homemakers? Obviously in certain cases it might be necessary for a woman to don the attire of a workman for a time. But to pursue such a job needlessly in order to acquire the magical words “liberated” is to abandon God’s will.
We are at a time in our culture where femininity is being attacked. And of course masculinity is under condemnation as well. We must follow God’s divine will for us, especially now. Femininity is something special, a gift from God! It is something to be treasured, not throw away in misguided disgust. Instead of fighting it, embrace God’s divine and perfect will for you!